When two people who have together for a long time, but in one point of the relationship, we somewhat felt something had changed or something is wrong with our partner. We tend to start wondering if he/she might be doings some wrong deeds behind our backs. It is sometimes mistaken as just jealousy, or imaginations or just being paranoid about that is sometimes a result of along term complacency with each other. It can be hard to tell actually but when in doubt go with our guts and look forward to some of his/her behavior that might be signs of this malicious deeds and stabs on your back. Here are some of I think might be a useful guides that may be considered on how to tell if the partner is being in that situation:

• if the partner tend to be more attentive than the usual. if you suddenly showered with gifts and compliments in almost seems like very inappropriate manner, then the partner is trying to make up for a guilty feelings.
• if your partner tend to stay out a lot longer than the usual or not showing up for dinner or unaccountable at times for his/her whereabouts, or if he/she suddenly alter these daily habits.
• if your partner is frequently picking fights with you. The emotional logic there id it will give that person more reason to leave the house and stay far from your site. because I believe that if you are not to blame, the partner will create a reason to justify that deeds.
• sometimes, being an overly critical of you may seem to be one of these signs, It is one of the agenda that once again gives that partner an excuse to leave. A guilty partner might also tend to be overly sensitive about criticisms from you for there maybe a ring of truth that triggers guilty feelings that they would rather not face.
• threats are the most obvious sign. When you two have fight, he/she may always insist to end up break up with you. They tend to be very sure that they will have someone to have to whenever the two of you split up.
• a consistent negative attitudes towards the relationship and comments that makes us feel like having an expiry dated on our forehead. As for instance, saying and planning things that not involves you as a partner or uttering "end" as laways.
• sometimes moods can be an obvious sign. The partner tend to be more depressed and the mood can be put in your end.
• most often the partner may tend to be incommunicative or refuse to interact to you. The partner seemed to be cold or inconsiderate of your feelings and the most obvious sign is to be less intimate with you in general. It is I believe a psychological distancing includes such behavior as extra finicky about personal boundaries or as if setting his own rules about privacy.
• Some books about relationships also imply that possibilities of a partner to have changes in tastes on clothing, music, food, vices, movies and some personal things is considered as signs.
• Perhaps the biggest indication that you might be dealing with a jerk is if they stop acting as if they are a part of your life. They tend to lose complete interest on family, friends, or following through on mutual financial goals or plans for the future, they also might be reluctant to go out of town with you for they might wanted to spend more time with other people but not with you.

There are I can consider a 5 stages on discovering a jerk:

• grief
• shock-denial
• anger
• sadness
• acceptance

After these stages, there will be 3 phases wherein:

• there is the reaction towards that deed
• decision making as to what to do next, and
• recuperation - a process to whether not you decide to stick with it in the end.

* Marriage counselling is always advised to be the best solution for a broken marriage.

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